Lorde Has Words For People Who Think Dealing With Acne Is Easy

Lorde knows the struggles of acne all too well. 

The 21-year-old “Green Light” singer lamented how much “acne sucks” in an Instagram story over the weekend, talking as she used a light therapy device on her skin. And she’s not here for the unsolicited acne advice people give her, assuming she hasn’t tried everything already. 

 “You know what also sucks?” Lorde said into the camera. “When you’ve had acne for years and years and years, done all the drugs, tried all the things, and people are still like, ‘You know what worked for me, is moisturizing!’” 

She continued parodying the simplistic advice some people give her, and jokingly added: “Make a mask out of honey, greek yogurt and avocado. All you need to do is buy an apricot scrub! Coconut oil – the secret is coconut oil!”

It’s even more insulting when people ask seemingly dumb questions, as if the singer hasn’t thought of everything already. 

“Do you wash your face?” she joked. “It’s like, yes, I wash my face, I’m just genetically cursed.” 

Even though she’s done with bad advice and blemishes, Lorde ended her message to fans on a positive note. 

“For anyone out there who has bad skin — and actual bad skin, not the kind of bad skin you can just use a fancy cream for for a few days and it will get better — I feel your pain,” she said. “We’ll get there, we will. Promise.” 

Lorde has opened up about her struggles with her skin before, and shares it with her social media followers (even when it’s a no-makeup, acne cream-on selfie). 

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She’s even pointed out photos of herself that are digitally altered, so she can show fans that “flaws are ok.”

It’s always nice to see celebrities, who have so many resources at their fingertips, openly and honestly talk about problems like bad skin ― something that so many people deal with. 

Miley Cyrus and Bella Thorne regularly share pictures of themselves with acne cream on their faces, and Chrissy Teigen sometimes Snapchats videos of her skin during her period.  

Kendall Jenner, who struggled with acne as a teenager, shut down acne shamers on Twitter last month after a breakout before the Golden Globe Awards. 

“Never let that shit stop you!” Jenner tweeted. 

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Like Lorde said, things will get better. 

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/lorde-has-words-for-people-who-think-dealing-with-acne-is-easy_us_5a8b965ee4b09fc01e02ae93

The Olympics’ oiliest man is returning to the Winter Olympics

Flag bearer Pita Taufatofua of Tonga leads his Olympic Team during the Opening Ceremony of the Rio 2016 Olympic Games at Maracana Stadium on August 5, 2016 in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.
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Buy your stock in coconut oil because Pita Taufatofua is returning to the Olympics.

The Tongan flag holder became a beloved meme during the opening ceremony at the 2016 Rio Olympics when he appeared in all his glistening glory. Well, now Taufatofua is officially heading to the 2018 Winter Games in PyeongChang, South Korea in a sport he barely knows: cross-country skiing.

The Wall Street Journal reports that Taufatofua officially qualified in Iceland on Saturday for the games. All this despite the fact that he comes from Tonga, a small Polynesian country that never sees snow.  

According to the Journal, Taufatofua had never skied before last year, but he was committed to going to the Winter Games, even crowdfunding his efforts to get there on Go Fund Me

“My goal is to motivate and inspire people to reach for the best within them and I do that through setting seemingly “impossible’ goals and then moving mountains to achieve them. And that is how a coconut from the Pacific found himself thousands of miles from home swimming around on cross-country skis in a constant state of hypothermia,” he wrote on the crowdfunding page. 

Taufatofua has raised $15,823 of his $30,000 goal at the time of writing. According to the page, 20 percent of all funds raised will be donated back to Royal Tonga Ski Federation.

Read more: http://mashable.com/2018/01/22/pita-taufatofua-winter-olympics-cross-country-skiing/

When It Comes To Trendy Face Oils, Expensive Isn’t Always Better

Over the past few years, facial oils have become staples in beauty cabinets everywhere. Celebrities love them. Models love them. Goop loves them. But they can be so expensive. 

For instance, cult favorite Vintner’s Daughter, a serum made of 22 different oils, retails for $185, while Kjaer Weis and Kypris both sell facial oils for $225. And those are just three of many brands selling facial oils that aren’t so wallet-friendly.

What is it about the ingredients that makes these products cost so much money? Do they really work? And are they worth your money? We talked to experts to find out.

Do They Even Work?

Before deciding whether spending money on an expensive product is worth it for your wallet, you might want to know if these products are actually helpful to your skin. 

Much has been written about the supposed benefits of using facial oils. In 2016, licensed skincare therapist Julia March told HuffPost, “Oils protect the skin’s acid mantle, rebuild and maintain skin’s lipid barrier due to external influences, like extreme temperatures, over-cleansing, low humidity, sickness and travel. They act as a carrier for other active ingredients to penetrate into lower levels of the epidermis.”

To some, it may seem like facial oils are too good to be true. They claim to make our skin look more plumpyounger and even downright perfect. We asked Dr. Samer Jaber at Washington Square Dermatology for a little more insight. 

Jaber explained that facial oils have natural antioxidants and fatty acids, which can indeed help with anti-aging and protecting the skin from free radicals. He also noted that face oils can be a good addition to our regular skincare routines, along with our sunscreen, serums and creams. 

“The nice thing about face oils is they’re natural, so that’s one of the reasons people like them,” he added.

The key to facial oils, Jaber said, is that “you want to make sure you have the right face oil for your skin.” 

For instance, if you have acne-prone skin, Jaber recommended using a lighter oil for your face, such as argan, jojoba, calendula, rose hip or marula, which are less likely to clog pores. For drier skin, he recommended something thicker with a higher level of saturated fat, like olive or coconut oil. (One thing he did say to keep in mind when choosing an olive oil is to look for something cold-pressed. Extra virgin olive oil is heated when it’s processed, which may cause the anti-oxidant levels to drop.) 

In terms of cost, though, Jaber said, “Just because a product is expensive doesn’t mean that it is better than a reasonably priced product.” 

So What’s Up With The High Prices?

As Ni’Kita Wilson, cosmetic chemist and founder of Skinects.com, explained to HuffPost, there are different grades and types of oil, which come at different prices. 

“You have your run-of-the-mill basic oils, like soybean oil, castor oil, sweet almond oil, jojoba oil,” she said. “Those are more common and even for those oils I just named, there’s a price range, with soybean being the cheapest and probably jojoba being the most expensive.” 

“Then you have a class of exotic oils,” Wilson said. “There are some that have vitamin A-like activity or retinol activity. There are some that just feel so soft and so smooth and they’re loaded with vitamin C. Those are not as common, and they’re much more expensive because you can’t just go get them anywhere.”

“These more specialized oils, they’ve gone through testing to show they have these other ingredients in them, like vitamin A or vitamin C, and it’s quantifiable,” Wilson said. “Then they take it a step further and they see if these oils actually have activity, and some of them do. Those are used as active oils, where they actually have activity to do something good for your skin, other than moisturize.”

Finally, aside from the oils themselves, there are oil-soluble extracts, which have proven active abilities. These are sometimes added to oils, as is the case with Kjaer Weis’ Beautiful Oil, to make the product even more active.

When it comes to the raw ingredients for these products, suppliers base their prices on a variety of factors, Wilson said.

For instance, if certain ingredients have been tested in clinical trials and have proven results, they would come at a premium price, driving up the retail price. Some ingredients can also only be found in certain areas, and if suppliers have partnerships with local people in that region to help support socioeconomic growth, that too would drive up the cost for consumers. 

“The more exotic it is, typically the more expensive it is,” Wilson said, adding that ingredients that are 100 percent organic would also come with a premium price. On top of that, many serums contain multiple oils (like Vintner’s Daughter), and when the ingredients are mixed together, the price goes up. 

Then, of course, you have to remember the markup. “The brand still has to make their margin,” Wilson noted. (According to MoneyTalksNews, the average markup on cosmetics is 78 percent.)

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A Few Examples

We asked Wilson about Vintner’s Daughter and Kjaer Weis specifically to get a little more insight into the high retail prices. 

Vintner’s Daughter contains carrier oils such as grape seed and hazelnut oil, which Wilson said are more expensive than soybean oil but far less expensive than something like camellia oil. After looking at the rest of the ingredients, Wilson deduced the $185 price tag might be a little high for what you get, though she agreed that the organic ingredients in the serum could be partly responsible for the price.

Vintner’s Daughter’s website doesn’t state that all ingredients are organic, but it does say the serum is “100% organic or wildcrafted.” However, the brand’s founder, April Gargiulo, told HuffPost via email they “only use organic ingredients.”

The brand starts with whole plants, not extracts, freeze-dried plants or powders, Gargiulo said, and spends weeks formulating its products. “This process is as you can imagine far more expensive and time consuming, but the results speak for themselves.”

“At the end of the day, every consumer needs to decide her/his own comfort level, but we believe that one $185 product that actually delivers results and is made from the very finest ingredients is better than four $45 products made from low quality fillers and deliver minimal results,” she said.

The Kjaer Weis product contains a few oil-soluble extracts, including dioscorea batatas root extract, a wild yam extract containing a compound called diosgenin, and spilanthes acmella flower extract. These extracts have been studied for their anti-aging properties.

A Kjaer Weis spokeswoman said the brand’s oil was the first of its kind to utilize doscorea batatas. “The root is sourced from biodynamic fields in Germany that have been additive free for over 15 years,” she said. “Combined with a nourishing blend of certified organic rose hip oil, sweet almond seed oil, olive oil and jojoba seed oil, it absorbs quickly, optimizing skin for a youthful velvety finish.”

What To Look For

When you’re looking to buy products, your best bet is to do some research. 

“When picking a product, it’s important to look at the ingredients and see if there are clinical studies backing the product claims,” Jaber said. 

Unfortunately, Wilson told HuffPost, it’s not that easy to find out whether the ingredients in facial oils were tested for anti-aging activity and efficacy, as the claims made by skincare companies usually relate to the final product, not the individual ingredients. (But alas, the internet is a vast resource!)

Once you’ve done your research and discovered which ingredients have been tested to treat whatever it is you want your facial oil to treat, look for those on product labels.

Also remember that while it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that expensive products are better than your average drugstore buys, that’s not necessarily the case. Sure, an expensive oil may contain active ingredients, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s better than an oil that may contain a lower concentration of those same ingredients, or even different ingredients. 

You can go to Sephora and buy an oil that may have similar efficacy, but it may not carry the prestige you’re looking for,” Wilson said, noting that the choice becomes one based on personal preference. 

At the end of the day, Wilson said, there’s not a clear-cut way to tell if an expensive product is really worth the price, in terms of ingredients.

“So if you like it and it makes you feel beautiful, then it’s worth it to you,” Wilson said. “But you could [feel] just as beautiful if you try one that’s less expensive.”

This story has been updated with comments from Vintner’s Daughter and Kjaer Weis.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/facial-oils-expensive_us_5a662714e4b0e56300725429

Why stress makes you fat

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We all know what makes us fat: eating more in calories than we burn off in energy. But though this is true, it doesn’t answer the more interesting question – why do we overeat in the first place?

Why do I sometimes feel compelled to eat that bit of cake or bar of chocolate although I know I am going to regret it a few minutes later?

Is it just greed – or is something else going on?

Although self-control is important, there is mounting evidence that stress plays a significant part in weight gain.

Chronic stress disrupts our sleep and our blood sugar levels. This leads to increased hunger and comfort eating.

And that then leads to further disrupted sleep, even higher levels of stress and even more disrupted blood sugars. In time, this can lead not only to unhealthy levels of body fat, but also to type-2 diabetes.

To see what can happen, Dr Giles Yeo, a member of the Trust Me, I’m a Doctor team, decided, with the help of scientists from Leeds University, to put himself through a particularly stressful day.

The Leeds scientists started by asking Giles to do something called the Maastricht Stress Test.

They put him in front of a computer and made him rapidly subtract a number, 17, from another number, 2,043. He kept making mistakes, which for someone like Giles is particularly stressful.

Then they got him to put his hand in a bath of ice-cold water and hold it there. Before and after these tests, the Leeds team measured Giles’s blood sugar levels.

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Our blood sugar levels rise when we eat and, in a healthy person like Giles, they quickly return to normal.

But what the Leeds team found was that on the day when Giles was being deliberately stressed, his blood sugar levels took three hours to return to normal – some six times longer than on a previous, stress-free day.

The reason this happens is that when you are stressed, your body goes into “fight or flight” mode.

Your body thinks it is under attack and releases glucose into your blood to provide energy for your muscles.

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Image caption Stress can disrupt sleep – and lead to comfort eating

But if you don’t need that energy to run away from danger, then your pancreas will pump out insulin to bring those blood sugar levels back down again.

These rising levels of insulin and falling blood sugars will make you hungry – which is why you crave sugary carbs when you are stressed.

The same sort of thing happens when you have a bad night’s sleep.

A recent study carried out by researchers at King’s College, London found that if you sleep-deprived people they would consume, on average, an extra 385kcal per day, which is equivalent to the calories in a large muffin.

Children also get the munchies when they haven’t had enough sleep.

In another recent study, researchers took a small group of three- and four-year-olds (all regular afternoon nappers) and not only deprived them of their afternoon nap, but also kept them up for about two hours past their normal bedtime

The following day, the children ate 20% more calories than usual, particularly more sugar and carbohydrates. They were then allowed to sleep as much as they wanted.

The day after that, they still consumed 14% more calories than normal.

So how can you reduce daily stress?

Breathing stress away

Here’s a breathing technique, recommended by NHS Choices, which I find effective. You will get the most benefit if you make it part of your daily routine.

You can do it standing, sitting or lying – whatever is the most relaxing.

  • Start by breathing in as deeply as you can, through your nose, without forcing it, to a count of five
  • Then, gently exhale, through your mouth, to a count of five
  • Keep breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth – steadily
  • Keep doing this for three to five minutes

One of the first things I would strongly recommend is to try to get a good night’s sleep. This is easier said than done, but NHS Choices provides some useful tips.

You could also try some well established “stress-busting” techniques – such as exercising, gardening, mindfulness or yoga.

When I recently tested them, with the help of Prof Angela Clow, a stress expert from the University of Westminster, the mindfulness came out on top.

But a key finding of our study was you really only got benefit if you enjoyed it.

So do try different things and see which works best for you.

Trust Me I’m a Doctor is on BBC Two at 20:30 on Wednesday 24 January and will be available on iPlayer afterwards.

Read more: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-42788280

Hunky Tongan Flag-Bearer From Rio Qualifies For Winter Olympics

Better stock up on body oil, Pyeongchang.

Pita Taufatofua, the swooned-over shirtless Tongan flag-bearer from the 2016 Summer Olympics in Rio, qualified for the Winter Olympics in cross-country skiing over the weekend.

“A miracle happened,” he wrote on his Instagram.

After failed bids in Poland and Armenia in the last few weeks, he barely beat Sunday’s deadline for qualifying, the Wall Street Journal reported. Taufatofua earned his Olympic berth at an event in Isafjordur, Iceland.

“I gave it absolutely everything,” he told the Journal. “I died at the end.”

Taufatofua was able to meet a five-race standard with the help of four roller-skiing events on dry land prior to his successful snow trial, the Journal noted. 

Taufatofua was a bigger hit in the opening and closing ceremonies in Rio than he was in his sport, taekwondo. He lost in the first round.

Given that his first skiing lesson was in January of last year, according to CNN, his presence will likely give the games more of a PR jolt than anything.

He told the Journal he is planning his games entrance, if he can round up the funding to get there. A parka won’t make quite the splash his coconut-oil-slathered torso did during the last go-round, so it’ll be interesting to see what he comes up with.

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Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/tongan-flag-bearer-rio-winter-olympics_us_5a6606cbe4b0e5630071e171

Boxing Champ Laila Alis Fight to Cook Healthy

Tell me about your food experiences as a kid. How did you first learn to cook? Growing up, when I lived with both of my parents before they got divorced, we had a cook! So that was my first experience, having really good home-cooked meals. But after they divorced, my mom didnt cook much and I had to start figuring out how to cook by myself, starting with things like scrambled eggs at about 9, then spaghetti and then more stuff as time went on.

You had a nearly 10-year, undefeated career as a professional fighter; did you discover your love for boxing or cooking first? Definitely cooking, definitely. Cooking Ive been doing since I was 9. Ive always enjoyed it. I didnt discover boxing until I was 18.

Did your father, Muhammad Ali, like to cook? I dont ever remember seeing my dad cook. He loved home-cooked meals, he loved soul food, he loved going to a good burger joint, but I dont know if he even knew how to cook.

Youve competed on Chopped, you host the FYI show Late Nite Chef Fight, and youve cooked on TV with everybody from Paula Deen to Steve Harvey, but the new Food for Life is your first cookbook. What made you decide to write one? Ive always wanted to put all my recipes down in one place. In fact, Id done it myself before, but I moved and lost the book! When I started sharing with the world that I loved to cook, people started saying why dont you do a cookbook? But I couldnt do it all myself. Thats why I teamed up with [Food for Life co-author] Leida Scheintaub to do the book. I thought, OK, this woman knows flavor. If it was just up to me, this book still wouldnt be done. As a cook, I dont really use recipes, and to put everything down, its really difficult. But the great thing about my recipes is that they dont have to be followed perfectly to come out right.

How was the actual cookbook-writing process for you? Did you have to do a ton of recipe development and testing? Oh, yeah. I literally took about 11 months and shut everything else down. There was no way I would be able to work on my passion project if I was doing four other things. Leida set up a timeline, and I came up with a list of recipes I wanted to work on together, along with some recipes Id been using myself for years. And then you have to try all the recipes and try them on different people and go through editing and changes. I had to learn that the way I season things isnt perfect for most people. I remember when we were testing the gumbo, I took some to my neighbors and they told me it was too salty! Im glad I partnered with someone whos got a lot of experience. 11 months is actually really fast for a cookbook. Writing all the headers and stories and stuff that goes along with the recipes? All that stuff takes time! Its my book. I was definitely involved in the process the whole way, and it was a lot of work.

Food for Life focuses equally on flavor and nutrition. How did your time as a pro boxer influence how you cook and eat? Well, as an athlete, thats where I really learned about the quality of the food you put in your body. That was the first time I had to focus on what I was putting in my body and look at calories and fat and all that kind of thing. And then as a parent, you have to go even deeper, looking at ingredients and GMOs and stuff like that. Were eating a lot of processed food thats not even really foodits food-likeand people dont understand why theyre getting sick. Healthy food doesnt have to be boring, it doesnt have to be hard, it doesnt have to be expensive. My book is not a diet. Its not about eating one style of food; its about eating whole foods, incorporating a lot of vegetables and natural foods into your lifestyle. And I do also have a chapter thats like the next-level stuff for people who want to take that next step into things like bone broth and making your own fermented foods to keep your gut healthy and things like that. Really trying to think of ways you can make your food more nutritious every time you eat.

The books recipes include ingredients and flavors from all over the world; do you have a personal favorite type of cuisine? The cuisine that comes from my Creole roots would be my favorite. The seafood gumbo, jambalaya, stewed chicken. People look at that and be like, oh, thats healthy? Theyre not only delicious and comforting, but Im also using ingredients that are better for you. When you use oil and flour to make a roux, for example, you can use coconut oil and whole-wheat flour. You definitely can have all those things, but maybe you just cant have them every single day.

You have two small children; any tips on cooking for kids? Keep it simple. Cater to what they like. Ive had to learn that the hard way because Ive made all these meals for my kids! So now I find myself going back to the foods they love and trying to add nutrition. Its really important to me as a mom: I cook five days a week. I might take some zucchini, and peel and puree it and add it to a dish along with the meat. I try that with riced cauliflower too, but my daughter can usually detect it. If Im making them spaghetti, which they love, Ill find a good, wholesome pastatheres this brown-rice pasta that works very welland Ill take some veggies and put them in the food processor to make a sauce and get them some extra veggies. I make them chocolate cake, I put zucchini in it and they dont even know its in there! If your kids like hamburgers, find a way to make it healthier and dont force them to eat things they dont want to. And, of course, I bribe them sometimesIll take 2 ounces of green juice and mix it with some apple juice and tell them theyre not getting any dessert unless they drink it.

How can someone whos not very good at cooking get better? Practice, starting with simple recipes. I would focus on the basics, like if youre a meat-eater, learn some basics about cooking a steak. Get a recipe thats a really basic oven recipe thats really easy and then keep it simple. Do a protein, a vegetable and maybe a starch, and put the whole thing in the oven and just be done with it. You definitely have to sit down and make a plan and figure out what you want to do. Also, stock your pantry and fridge: It gets overwhelming if you feel like you have to buy everything single item in the recipe. I have a list in my book of items everybody should buy.

Whats your single favorite recipe in the book, and why? Definitely my seafood gumbo. There are so many different takes on gumbo, but I feel like I could win a contest with mine. I remember calling my grandma and asking her how she makes her roux and learning that recipe over the phone. Its all one pot of magic and comes out great. Its from my Creole roots, I grew up eating it, and its really a crowd-pleaser. You make some, and next thing you know youve got a crowd looking to take some home.

Besides your own kitchen, where do you like to eat in your home of Los Angeles? I have to be honest: I dont get to go out as much as I like because of the kids. We usually eat out once a week on Fridays, but they like to stick to their favorite places. We live in the Valley, so there are lots of restaurants in LA that I dont get to go to. That said, Shibuya is a sushi place out here in Calabasas that has really fresh product. I love it. Lure Fish House in Westlake is really good. Of course I love Mastros Ocean Club in Malibu. Im a bit embarrassed to say it, but for a family-friendly place, were regulars at The Cheesecake Factory. The kids can get what they want, I can get a salad, and I love their crispy salmon rolls. My next book, Im gonna make my own version of those!

Whats next for you? I host a show called Home Made Simple on OWN, and Ill be doing that again next season Im sure. For me personally, Im also developing a nutrition line of products like protein, green powder, vitamins, a cleanse. Those are just a few of the items, and Im really excited about that. I have a couple ideas for names but I dont want to say anything yet.

Laila Alis cookbook Food for Life will be released Jan. 23. You can also listen to her weekly podcast, Laila Ali Lifestyle.

Interview has been condensed and edited.

Read more: https://www.thedailybeast.com/boxing-champ-laila-alis-fight-to-cook-healthy

Ulta’s Love Your Skin Sale Starts Today & Here’s What To Buy

In a time when it feels like New York may truly freeze over, taking care of our prizeworthy skin is crucial. Frigid temperatures literally destroy everything we care about by punishing us with dry af skin, ashy hands, and pasty-looking faces. With this comes the real struggle of figuring out wtf to buy, and deciding whether or not the expensive shit really works—because if it doesn’t, well, FML and fuck my bank account. Fortunately for us, Ulta is a godsend and is rewarding us with their Love Your Skin sale. I know, it sounds fucking amazing already. From now until the 27th, must-have skincare products from some of our favorite brands will be up to 50% off. Each day brings something different to the table, so start setting alarms on your phone now. Here’s all of the worthy shit to buy for this week.

Monday, January 8th

Peter Thomas Roth FIRMx Peeling Gel

Please raise your hand if your skin was personally victimized by this weekend’s insane Bomb Cyclone. *Raises both hands* To help get rid of flaky dull skin, this gel literally rolls off dead skin (ew) to reveal brighter, hydrated, smoother-looking skin. It’s full of a bunch of fruity goodness so def it’s non-drying and non-irritating.

Tuesday, January 9th

Lancôme Bi-Facil Double-Agent Eye Makeup Remover

This makeup remover is honestly so good, it wipes away even the most stubborn waterproof mascaras. The bi-phase formula (see: lipid and water) not only removes all makeup, but conditions and refreshes the eye area as well—all without leaving your face feeling greasy and gross.

Wednesday, January 10th

Organic to Green Jasmine Ylang Ylang Coconut Oil For Face—Moisturizing

In case you don’t know, there isn’t much coconut oil *can’t* do. Honestly, I’m upset I waited so long to try it, but it has seriously like, improved my quality of life. It helps heal hair, skin, and anything else worth stressing over. This moisturizing coconut oil is just one of many from Organic to Green that you can find at 50% off this week. The refreshing formula is non-greasy, v gentle, and non-comedogenic, so it will help dry winter skin without making you break out. Bless.

Thursday, January 11th

Juice Beauty STEM CELLULAR Anti-Wrinkle Overnight Cream

Uh, when aren’t we stressing over corpse-looking eye bags, rude wrinkles, and any visible signs of aging? Never. This super intensive hydrating cream is designed to infuse your skin with a shit ton of necessary moisture while getting rid of any lines or wrinkles while you sleep. You’ll wake up to soft, glowing, wrinkle-free skin first thing in the morning. Better than coffee? No, but it comes close.

Friday, January 12th

Clarisonic Mia 1 Skin Cleansing System

Let’s just say there’s a reason why everyone and their mother owns one of these. This small compact cleansing system can be used both at home, or on-to-go if your face really just can’t wait. The electronic facial cleanser does a hell of a lot better job than your hands do at washing your face. It removes all makeup, exfoliates dry patches, absorbs oiliness, and reduces breakouts. You’ll honestly wonder what the hell you were doing with your life after buying one of these. You’re so welcome.

Read more: http://www.betches.com/ulta-love-your-skin-sale-best-deals

Heres Why Your Life Is Weird Right Now, According To How Pregnant You Are

4 Weeks

You JUST peed on a stick and the result was either a plus sign, two parallel lines, or (if you sprung for the fancy test) the word PREGNANT. Yay! You’re a fertile human capable of reproducing! Your partner’s swimmers and your egg did their respective biological jobs! As you mull over your new reality, you’re way too excited to care about all the lifestyle changes you’re about to face head on. All you can think about is the opening scene from, and the fact that your shit works down there. You’re high on (the miracle of) life! Absolutely thrilled about everything that’s to come, even if it means not getting drunk for the next nine months. Sigh.

8 Weeks

Starting around week eight, your embryo becomes a fetus, which registers as a massive feat. You’re still a little fuzzy on what that means, exactly, but you’ll hold onto any sense of achievement you can at this point. The thing is, while you definitely  pregnant (i.e. bloated, groggy, and maybe even vomity), you don’t exactly the part quite yet. And since you’re not really supposed to tell anyone that you’re knocked up while you’re still inside the miscarriage danger zone, being pregnant feels a bit solitary. To celebrate the embryo-to-fetus milestone, you go to great lengths to prepare the tastiest mocktail possible. It’s not that great, but whatevs. You and your raspberry sized fetus will have to deal with life within the pregnancy closet just a little bit longer.

12 Weeks

Finally! You’ve made it to the point at which it’s socially acceptable to announce your pregnancy because (morbid alert!) the chances of miscarrying (and then having to explain that you’re no longer pregnant) are thankfully much lower now. Your belly, which is home to a fetus roughly the size of a plum, is probably protruding a bit. Still, you don’t appear pregnant to anyone outside your inner circle—just like you’ve eaten a little too much and maybe gotten breast implants.

16 Weeks

You’re officially in the second trimester! It’s the “honeymoon trimester” and you’re ready for that energy boost you’ve been hearing so much about. Even if you can’t feel the fetus kicking quite yet, you’re pretty positive it’s in there. The Internet tells you it’s about the size of an avocado, which seems significant. Your back probably hurts and you may be starting to feel fat, but you’re also “glowing” according to most people familiar with pregnancy etiquette.

22 Weeks

Your fetus is the size of a coconut and you’ve finally popped, which means that if you clutch your stomach in the right manner, strangers can no longer avoid sacrificing their seat for you on the subway (unless of course they’re an a-hole). You can also probably feel some fetal kicking, which is SUPER reassuring—except when a prolonged period of non-movement prompts you to worry incessantly. By now you also have the option of learning the baby’s sex, and maybe planning one of those creepy gender reveal parties.

26 Weeks

You’re on the brink of the final trimester and past the “point of viability” (meaning that if your baby were to arrive, it would have a good shot at living), but it still seems like FOREVER until your due date. You spend most of your free time—in between frequent trips to the bathroom—trying out different names for your eggplant sized fetus, but you probably haven’t committed to a single candidate quite yet, if only because name games are one of your few sources of pleasure. After all, you cannot drink what you want, eat what you want, or wear what you want—STILL—and sex isn’t quite the same (unless you’re one of those lucky women who experiences the BEST orgasms of her life during pregnancy).

30 Weeks

You’ve reached the third trimester! The FINAL frontier. The last stretch (literally). People constantly remind you that you’re “almost there,” which kind of makes you want to punch them in the throat since the last 10 weeks are bound to be THE most difficult. You’re enormous, with a fetus the size of a large cabbage inside your belly, exhausted, and fed up with all of that fetal kicking, which was once cute but is now more than slightly uncomfortable. Sometimes you lie on the couch and stare at the surface of your stomach as it contorts in strange ways, and you have to wonder if you’re building a Tasmanian devil rather than a human baby. You also wonder how the hell everything’s going to go back to its original place after being jostled about so much in there.

34 Weeks

With just a month and a half left until you get to meet your little love nugget, which is now the size of a cantaloupe, and officially become a mom, it really does seem like you’re ALMOST there. The idea of giving birth is suddenly very real (and terrifying!), so you routinely remind yourself that almost everyone walking the planet is a product of this process. It can’t be THAT bad. Or can it??? You spend a good amount of time examining yourself in the mirror (or avoiding mirrors altogether) because your pregnant figure is just so WEIRD. You’re a whale, and you’re really starting to doubt that you’ll ever look like yourself again. So you do what you can to maintain skin elasticity, rubbing lotion or coconut oil all over your chest and belly nightly, which makes sex (if you can stomach it at this point) quite messy. But let’s face it, you’re way more interested in preventing stretch marks than meeting your significant other’s sexual needs these days anyway.

40 Weeks

You’ll do ANYTHING to go into labor and be done with this pregnancy business already!!! You’re too large to do much of anything these days, including sleep. But you muster the energy to tackle any labor triggering activity you can dream up. You walk up and down the stairs, try (and fail) to do squats, play some hardcore music, and even speak directly to your pumpkin sized fetus about how kind you’ll be to him or her if they would just exit the womb already!!!! You’re starting to salivate over the very idea of a giant glass of wine (and, of course, the idea of snuggling your little baby in your arms).

Read more: https://thoughtcatalog.com/melanie-berliet/2017/12/heres-why-your-life-is-weird-right-now-according-to-how-pregnant-you-are/

10 Last Minute Lush Gifts Under $10, Because You Probably Forgot Someone

There’s nothing I love more than a long, leisurely bath. When I was younger, I personally kept the bubble bath industry afloat with my habit. Now that I’m older and know good ingredients from potentially toxic ones, Lush Cosmetics is my favorite brand to get naked with. These ten Lush gifts under $10 will transport you (or your lucky recipient) back to bath times of the past, while leaving your skin safely soft and nourished.

Although the holidays (aka winter break) are the most festive time of the year, they can be super stressful. Work winds up before it winds down, and if you’re anything like me, there’s still so much to accomplish before you make your exit. When we’re finally off for a few days, I can’t wait to just lay on the couch under a fluffy blanket after taking a luxurious bath.

I decided to peruse the Lush site because wonderful gifts don’t have to break the bank, and the brand is renowned for offering colorful, giftable products at every price point. Here are some I’m hoping I spy under my tree, because who better to inform your purchasing habit than a true Lush-aholic?

The answer: No one.

With cinnamon leaf, sweet orange and clove bud oils, this is what I want the world to smell and feel like. You deserve this bubble bar, even though it’s almost too pretty to use. Since it’s reusable, you can’t feel guilty.

The “Looking Like A Snack” Bath Bomb

The only thing that nourishes my skin better than coconut oil is cocoa butter. I love cocoa butter on the days I want something a bit rich, but don’t feel like melting a pot of shea butter. Filled with vanilla-ylang ylang notes, I imagine this is what “looking like a snack” smells like.

The Shoot For The Stars Bath Bomb

The saying goes, “shoot for the moon and even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars,” which sounds just as good to me. Laced with Brazilian orange and bergamot oils, nothing sounds better than a sparkling bath that transports you into the night sky.

The Rest Up For The Big Day Bubble Bar

Packed with jasmine and ylang ylang, this bubble bar will fill you with nostalgia for Christmases past. Although I’m entering older millennial territory, I still keep the same Christmas traditions. This year though, a Christmas Eve Lush bath might be a new tradition on my list.

The Fit For The North Pole Bath Bomb

This peppermint and cocoa bath bomb works overtime to invigorate and moisturize skin. It will also make your bathroom smell like a gosh darn candy cane.

The Protesting Queens Dream Bath Bomb

Lush Cosmetics UK

Never Mind The Ballistics Bath Bomb


, $Lush USA

Perfect for the woke protest queen in your life: This lime and sweet wild orange oil bath bomb. Fair trade cocoa butter melts alongside fresh bananas to soften both the water and skin at the same time. Women deserve moisturized skin after spending their free time smashing the patriarchy!

The Wish Upon A Star Bath Melt

Luxury bath melt is all I need to hear. Filled with sparkles and almond oil, this bath melt has a special surprise once it hits the water.

The Fairy Godmother Bath Bomb

This new bath bomb promises to fill your tub with jelly bubbles that will hydrate and soften skin. That beautiful pink color will release a cruelty-free synthetic musk that creates a sweet fragrance in your bathroom. Say ahh.

The “Do You Want To Build A Snowman” Bubbleroon

I have never built a snowman, so this Bubbleroon will make up for a failed childhood. Thanks to the citrusy combo of organic lemon myrtle and Sicilian lemon oils, I can also reminisce on my times in Italy.

The Shine Bright Like a Cullen Sparkle Jar

Not only did I read all of the books, but I was at Blockbuster (#R.I.P) during the midnight release of the first movie. Embarrassment aside, what girl didn’t want to sparkle like Edward Cullen? This lavender-tonka powder is brimming with ylang-ylang oil, cocoa butter, chamomile and lavender powder. Basically, it’s the magic powder for silky skin that eases you to sleep.

Read more: https://elitedaily.com/p/10-lush-gifts-under-10-because-youll-need-to-relax-when-your-relatives-come-to-town-7534653

I Am Within The Wildest War Inside Of Myself

Janne Robinson

I am within the wildest war
inside of myself
I want to write down every blink of my father’s brown eyes
ever stroke of his brown
salt and peppered grey beard
I want to write the White of his cigarette papers
the marijuana he hides secretly in his ring
I want to write the red tile
the yellow tile
the blue tile
dancing in his garden
with the large heart rock
I want to write the smell of his house
made all of natural elements
from his hands
of his bed
full of thyme
of his ritual area–where he does Osho dances and yoga and shakes himself wildly awake
I want to write of the way his clothes fall on nails beside the fireplace
wrinkled and loved
I want to write of the green pears he brings me in a brown plastic bag
how he drives every few days deep into the mountains
to gather fresh water from a spout
in large plastic bottles
because he doesn’t believe in the well water from below the ground
I want to write of the way he lights up when he is excited by something
how he laughs and says I go crazy for the figs
and the colours
I lose myself for the figs
I want to write of the yellow plastic bags that he tied in the mountains
so I could find his house
that he calls the roads
earth streets
and tells me
if you get lost
just shout
and I will come find you
I want to write of his orange shirt
with frayed sides
his style is so beautiful
and feminine
many men think that I am gay he says
cigarette between his lips
but I know from the man above my White House in the mountains I am renting
“your father was wildly handsome, you know? He’s been with 100’s of women. I was jealous of him.”
I wish to write the way his cheeks move when he eats
as he has no teeth
and how he is handsome still
I wish to write of the sparkle in his eyes as he shows me the things he makes with stones
of his excitement as he throws water upon the dusty stones
and they shine red or lustrous black
how he exclaims
look! look!
how he believes these are the real riches
I wish to write the pure soul of him
one that many here wouldn’t understand
for Tertsa is small
and he exists with the simplicity and richness in his mind that many have not touched
and will not touch

And some of the people laugh at him for his thoughts are grande and larger than he world some people live within
I wish for him to be not mocked
but celebrated as I celebrate his thoughts
some people will never understand
I forgive them
but wish for people to see his light
as it is great
there is nothing small about his presence

I wish to write you and tell you of the time we walked through the streets of Heraklion
his small brown arm with an orange bracelet draped upon mine
of how proud this made me
to be walking arm in arm with my father

My father I found

Of how he bought me leather brown sandals
and a silver ring
of how I could have bought these for myself but I said yes
and received

I wish to tell you that each time he arrives at my White House in the mountains that he brings gifts
small jars of coconut oil
a Robert munch book that my mother gave him 28 years ago
worn and eaten by life yet still attached
a small piece of peppermint
which he wisped underneath my nose
before handing me a leaf to eat
telling me every morning he drinks a warm cup of water and chews a fresh peppermint leaf
He brings a piece of a plant which in Greek is called Louisa
my mother’s name
and we walked
arm and arm to the small village
and I had my father in one hand
and my mother in the other
and how wild that is
your mother used to call me tzatziki
in India
he says laughing

I wish to write you and tell you of how he always chooses a tiny espresso cup
and how wonderful he looks
with his wild hair
and sun hat
in brightly colored orange or pink clothing
drinking from a tiny delicate cup
as he reads me Greek poetry
that I pretend to understand while admiring the way his hands dance when he speaks
admiring the way he’s trying
he is trying

I wish to write you to tell you of the food he makes
fresh vegetables from his garden
of how his face lights up when he tastes the food he has made
of the “pooaaa-pooaaa-pooaaa”
noise that you will only understand after being in Greece
and hearing it escape from his mouth in appreciation for the simple yet extraordinary food he cooks
and how he brought two containers
and looked at me and said
I cooked two dishes–because, well, you are always very hungry
after watching me devour a large chicken souvlaki at lunch
and I laughed
as he may not know that I stress about food
yet I do
and he is right

I wish to write you and tell you of his small car
his tiny hippie car
the new white one
the sister of the blue one that died

It has feathers and necklaces hanging from the mirror
delightful things
gentle things
the doors don’t lock
the seats are dead and he has put pillows and blankets upon them
and sometimes it hurts my back after long drives
but it does the job
one day soon I will leave this car
he says
I will go and live in the caves
maybe when I am 70
(Which is 9 years)
and live up there alone
be in the natural
I wish to die under a tree
and before I die I will make a clear wish that I want my soul to live the next life on a different planet
if there is a different planet
I am done with this planet
and how I sit
wide-eyed in love with the peculiar and wonderful man he is
yet at the same time sit in fear that only after finding him he will retreat into a cave and I will lose him again

I wish to tell you of how the people stare at him
in the gyros shop
in Heraklion
this one young man never stopped starring
I’m not sure if it was him
or me with him
we are probably quite a sight
tanned like olives
my father with wild hair and a large beard like he is maybe Indian
like a guru or a yogi
Round blue glasses like Tommy Chong
I wonder if they know I am his daughter
some people have thought I am his girlfriend
the age is so great now with couples
I guess this is normal
yet with the same ears and body and face in many ways
I wonder if they even look

I wish to write you the sounds of Crete
the roaring from these crickets that are not crickets
that live on the trees
with large wings
they yell louder than anything I have ever heard
It is overwhelming at dusk and dawn when I walk in the dried river
through dusty roads with yellow dead grass weeping at my tired feet
as I make the journey again and again
back to that which I fear and want most

I wish to tell you of the part of me that so badly wants to run
the part of me that is wounded so deeply by my fathers choice to not raise me
not see the photograph of me as a child and the letter from my mother when I was 1
And write back
to know
to be

this part of me has its heels planted deeply and is terrified to be here
even though I am here
this part of me is angry and spiteful and says
for what?
he didn’t come

Yet I am here
sitting at the table
underneath a large cedar tree
eating the brown buds of the cedar tree
sitting under the moon
by candlelight
as my father hates lights
hates electricity
hates computers
hates cellphones
hates the advancement our world has claimed
holding him adoringly in my eyes

Yet I am here
In his small white car
with eyes full of blue salty tears
speaking the anger and hurt and fears in my heart

Yet I am here
in his village full of 60 people
with two restaurants
and one hotel
swimming in the sea that is me
eating gallons of olive oil
and discovering new parts inside of me

Yet I am here
in a small taverna
pulling forth that inside of me which may save me
be a salvation to the suffering I have endured
in this gap in my childhood
two amazing loving mothers
yet I always wanted to know
of course
why would we not want to know where we came from

And he is here
I will get this phone
he says
with this video
[face time]
and I will try this time
this time
it is different
I feel strong
you are a part of me
and you deserve to know me
and I am also curious about you
I want to see
for us to go together

And I hear it
in the way his hand holds mine
and assures me
that I don’t need to buy the phone
that he will

And I hear it in the woman in the restaurant in Myrtos
who when I say I am visiting
and her eyes bug
and she says
only 8 days?
and he replies
but she will make many more trips

And I struggle with whether I can forgive
with whether he deserves my forgiveness after choosing to not be in my life for 21 years
yet my mentor gently reminds me
forgiveness isn’t about him
it is about you
and healing yourself

And yet I want to forgive him
and not have such a weight in my chest when people ask me
what of your father
and to not reply
he lives in Greece
but we have only met once
I want to be rid of this story
and simply to reply
yes, he lives in Greece

I wish to write all these things
and I wish to write nothing
for I want to be here in all that there is
and all that I am.

Read more: https://thoughtcatalog.com/janne-robinson/2017/11/i-am-within-the-wildest-war-inside-of-myself/