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After an orgasm, these 8 weird things can happen

There are quite a few words youd associate with orgasm: pleasure. Release. Satisfaction.

But there are some that probably wouldnt cross your mind hallucinations, sneezing, and severe fatigue, for instance.

They might sound crazy, but those symptoms have actually been reported in scientific literature as unusual side effects of the normal orgasmic response which experts refer to as something called the peri-orgasmic phenomena, according to a new review in Sexual Medicine Reviews.

A typical orgasm which the scientists define as the peak physical reaction to sexual stimulation can include whole-body and pelvic sensations, as well as flushing, increased heart rate and blood pressure, and heavy breathing, the researchers say. Psychological effects can include feelings of happiness, love and relaxation.

But with peri-orgasm phenomena, some physiological or psychological effects occur that fall beyond those normal responses. Here, the 8 strangest side effects that can be triggered by an orgasm.

Orgasm side effect: Hallucinations
In some cases, your skills in the sack can take her to another world. Of nearly 50 women who claimed to experience expanded sexual response, 76 percent to 100 percent noted a flying experience or sensation of flight, according to a 2011 study from Turkey.

Whats more, up to 24 percent noted a sense of entering a cartoon world, up to 75 percent noted a feeling of leaving their bodies, and up to 24 percent listed déjà vu as a component, too.

Orgasm side effect: Sickness
Its called post-orgasm illness syndrome, and its a constellation of symptoms that have been reported in men after ejaculation, including severe fatigue, intense warmth, and a temporary flu-like state.

Basically, your body mislabels proteins in your own semen as foreign invaders, which ramps up your immune response and makes you feel sick. Post-orgasm illness syndrome can be difficult to diagnose, but if you think sex is linked to your symptoms, make an appointment with an allergist, said Mohit Khera, MD, MPH, a urology professor at Baylor College of Medicine. That can help ID a semen allergy.

Related: 3 ways sex can make you sick

Orgasm side effect: Weakness
Orgasmolepsy the sudden onset of weakness that occurs with orgasm was first reported back in 1928, and usually occurs in connection with narcolepsy or other sleep disorders. Symptoms typically last for less than 30 seconds and include a complete loss of muscle control.

Prevalence rates of orgasmolepsy differ among studies, but one of the highest-powered listed it as 22 percent among those with sleep disorders.

Researchers arent sure what causes it, but they believe firing of the amygdala response coupled with hypocretin deficiency, which occurs with narcolepsy may be to blame.

Orgasm side effect: Crying
Crying after sex is a symptom of something called postcoital dysphoria, a constellation of after-sex effects that include tearfulness, melancholy feelings, depression, anxiety, or agitation. They can appear up to an hour after sex, and often occur in stable relationships, researchers say.

Nearly one in three female University students reported experiencing at least one symptom of postcoital dysphoria at least once, a 2011 study in the International Journal of Sexual Health.

It can be alarming to see your partner cry after sex, but it might just be a biological reflex to the hormonal and neurological that occur with it, Lori Brotto, PhD. Or, she may feel lonely after the intimacy of sex is over.

Best way to find out? Give her a chance to talk about it heres how.

Orgasm side effect: Sneezing
Case reports linking sneezing to sex have been around since the 1900s in fact, one from 1972 detailed a 59-year-old man who developed severe sneezing and a runny nose after orgasm, which continued for 10 years.

Researchers believe that activating one part of the parasympathetic nervous system during orgasm may actually trigger a different branch of it, too, which sparks your sneezing symptoms.

Orgasm side effect: Pain
Pain with orgasm can occur in women even if she doesnt feel pain with intercourse. In fact, a 2009 study described three cases of women who experienced it, even without any anatomical or infectious causes of pain.

Guys arent immune, either men with chronic prostate disease have also been known to experience pain with orgasm, too.

Orgasm side effect: Foot sensations
According to a 2013 case report in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a 55-year-old woman complained of undesired orgasmic sensations that originated in her left foot which was the same feeling as when she was having sex with her husband.

In fact, whenever she experienced a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, she felt the same sensation in her left foot afterward. The researchers believe it may be due to partial regeneration of damaged nerve fibers in her foot.

Orgasm side effect: Headache
Headaches caused by orgasm belong to the type 2 category of headache: Those which are bilateral, explosive, and triggered by some kind of excitement.

The duration of orgasm headaches can range from several minutes to three hours, and may be alleviated with antimigraine meds or pretreatment with propranolol.

Additional reporting by Ali Eaves and Cindy Kuzma

First published on MensHealth.com

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When Your Doctor Prescribes A Vibrator

Doctors have been adding a new tool to the arsenal of how they restore the sex lives ofmenopausaland post-menopausal women: the humble vibrator.

With the onset of menopause, a decrease in the production of hormones causes vaginal tissue to get thinner and drier. Vaginal muscles can also atrophy, leading to painfulsex a problem for half of all menopausal and post-menopausal women, according to the National Institutes of Health.But the solution might be as simple as a vibrating piece of silicon.

Vibrators that are used internally stimulate pelvic blood flow, which increases vaginal moisture and boosts sexual response, all of which makes sex (with or without a partner) better. Like any muscle, the vagina is best kept healthy with regular exercise its the use it or lose it thing. Deterioration of this muscle becomes more common as middle-age or older women find themselves in situations where they arent sexually active anymore single, divorced, widowed or just not having regular sex with partners.

Therapeutically speaking, frequent vibrator use can prevent and ward off conditions such as painful vaginal dryness and atrophy. And yes, doctors are recommending their use with the caveat that since the vibrator industry isnt regulated, certain cautionary steps should be taken. (In brief:Keep anything you put inside your privates clean, and dont share your toys with friends.)

Dr. Barb DePree, whos been a gynecologist for about 30 years and was recognized by the North American Menopause Society in 2013 as the practitioner of the year for her exceptional contributions to menopause care, has long been prescribing vibrators to her patients. She keeps one handy in the exam room when she explains to her menopausal patients why regular vibrator use will be beneficial to their health, and suggests they try it.

While a few patients might have blushed through the years, all of them have been willing to take it for a spin, DePress told HuffPost. She explains that vibrators that stimulate just the clitoris might be fun, but for intercourse with a partner to resume pain-free, there must be pelvic floor activity.

One of her patients is a 70-year-old woman who reports having sex two or three times a week now without the use of lubricants or estrogen creams. She doesnt always achieve an orgasm, but according to her doctor, is quite pleased with what working with a vibrator for a few months accomplished.

DePree draws this analogy: When your vision started to fail, you didnt give up reading. You went out and bought yourself a pair of readers. Same thing is true about sex.

A survey of more than 2,000 women aged 18 to 60 indicated that 52 percent have used a vibrator.

Another benefit of vibrator use, said DePree, is they can help address the fact that orgasm intensity weakens with age. She said she commonly hears women say, Orgasm takes so much longer, and comes and goes so quickly its hardly worth it. She said, Those are the women who may benefit from introducing a vibrator too.

In a published paper she authored, DePree discussed a 52-year-old post-menopausal patient who sought her help. The woman estimated that at least five years had passed since she last experienced an orgasm. The patient had multiple sclerosis and was taking a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor. She had tried a vibrator in the past, without success.

As a physician, I knew that she needed a more powerful motor for more intense stimulation. I was able to let her feel the difference and obtain the appropriate vibrator. Imagine her appreciation when she returned after achieving success, DePree said.

Having vibrators to road test in the safety of a doctors office also seems to be a boon. Not every woman feels comfortable going into a sex toy shop for the purchase. Online, the choices are mind-boggling. There are hundreds to choose form, and they can range in price from under $10 to the super-deluxe MotorBunny for $900 and the even higher priced Sybian.

Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, a Yale University obstetrician and gynecologist, brought vibrators out from under the bed a few years ago when she began prescribing them to Yale Cancer Clinics cancer patients, who often struggle with early menopause and need to combat its side effects. The vibrators increased her patients blood flow, and yes, improved their sex lives.

While the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the primary professional organization for ob-gyns, doesnt have an official policy on using vibrators to treat menopause and post-menopausal symptoms, a spokeswoman from the group told HuffPost that the organization doesnt really take issue with it.

And the organization does recommend masturbation to combat painful sex. I believe you could extrapolate that external stimulus, like a vibrator, fits into those categories, said Maggie McEvoy of the ACOG communications staff.

Vibrators not your thing?

There are, of course, other options to help restore the vaginas elasticity and health for those who are unable or unwilling to go the vibrator route.

Hormone replacement therapy is controversial, but still on the table. Its use to treat symptoms of menopause changed abruptly after a large clinical trial in the U.K.found that the treatment actually posed more health risks, like breast cancer,than benefits for one type of hormone therapy.

But further review of clinical trials and new evidence show that hormone therapy may be a good choice for certain women, depending on their risk factors.Low-dose vaginal preparations of estrogen which come in cream, tablet or ring form can effectively treat vaginal symptoms and some urinary symptoms, while minimizing absorption into the body, says the Mayo Clinic.

There are also vaginal lasers, a relatively new FDA-approved treatment, that work by stimulating collagen production along vaginal walls, helping to build up the tissue again. The MonaLisa Touch and similar laser processes require three treatments (spaced a month apart) and cost about $3,000 that likely wont be covered by your insurance.

On the plus side, there have been18 studies that speak to the MonaLisa Touchs efficacy, all largely positive. One Stanford university study of 30 women found that all of them responded positively to the treatment. They showed highly statistically significant improvement in symptoms including dryness, pain, itching, painful urination and painful intercourse after the first treatment.

The North American Menopause Society gives the process a resounding maybe. It notes that the FDA approval process for devices is less strenuous than the one for new drugs, and these products havent survived the test of time yet. Meaning: They havent been around long enough to know the longer-term results.

The procedure itself doesnt hurt, but does require an annual maintenance treatment.You also shouldnt have laser therapy until youve had a Pap test and a thorough exam by your doctor to ensure that there are no other medical issues such as fibroids causing the pain.

Options are a good thing, right?

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Postnatal depression I felt disembodied for so long but suddenly I was back in my own body

Jessica Friedmann talks to Viv Groskop about the terrifying years she experienced after the birth of her son

Jessica Friedmann thought she was managing well after the birth of her son. Then suddenly her thoughts took a dark turn. I had to come back into hospital two weeks later for a checkup and I realised that all I wanted to do was get out of the moving car. I was feeling as though I couldnt handle being alive any more and that it would be better for Owen if I wasnt.

Friedmann, 30, has written an extraordinary account of extreme postnatal depression as seen from the eye of the storm. She lives in Canberra, Australia, with her husband, Mike, 34, who is in the Australian air force. Their son, Owen, is four. The period of feeling foggy, as she calls it, dates it back to Owens early weeks. Friedmanns experience is at the sharp end of things. While the NHS suggests that the baby blues usually dont last more than two weeks after giving birth, Friedmann was ill for, she estimates, two and a half to three years.

She says cautiously that now she is fine. She had anticipated that she might feel fragile during her pregnancy. But when I was pregnant, I felt strong and vibrant, she says. I had experienced depression in the past and I was worried that I would feel resentful about sharing my body with another human being. You know, the idea of feeling colonised, of having another person growing inside me But it felt intuitively right and I felt safe.

Similarly she imagined she felt confident during and after the birth, despite some complications. I had to have a caesarean because he was breech I had a haemorrhage. But afterwards I thought I was OK. It turned out my uterus was inflamed and so I was on a course of antibiotics.

As her physical symptoms improved, her mental health deteriorated. A couple of weeks after he was born, I went from feeling euphoric to feeling good to feeling not good to feeling desperate quite quickly. Antidepressants helped, but did not fix everything. That got me up to half-speed. I thought that was as good as it was going to get. I felt so slow and tired.

Jessica was part of pilot programme in Australia where mothers can be monitored by a psychiatrist after birth. This helped to sort out her medication. Because she had had depression before, she was also seeing a therapist. But despite all this, she still felt at a loss as a new mother: You can read as much as you want, but you dont know what having a child is going to feel like. I didnt know it was ordinary to be in that much pain or to be so tired that I just couldnt function.

But while these things are normal and usually fairly transient for new parents, she realised that her symptoms were more serious. For me the key tell for depression is that I stop sleeping. Its a kind of interrupted sleep. In the early days, instead of getting sleep between Owens feeds, I would stay up all night and be awake. At the time I thought it made sense. That kind of sleeplessness is common if youre experiencing depression. Its a sleeplessness that is like agitation.

It got worse as she found herself heading into the world of what therapists call postpartum mood disorder. I started having intrusive thoughts. Although at the time I didnt have the language to express that. Its compulsive thinking about violence towards yourself or towards your child. You are thinking things that you dont want to think. But the majority of new parents dont have those thoughts. Or at least Ihope they dont.

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Jessica Friedmann. Photograph: Heather Lighton/Scribe

Her mother took over the care of her son for a while. At one time Friedmann had the urge to walk out of the window. Recovery was slow: Depression is very isolating, so I felt so grateful that I had so many people around me who Icould ask for help.

Friedmann realised she was getting better when she felt more in control of her mind. It was almost like a light came on. I had felt disembodied for so long and suddenly it was like I was back in my own body. I felt as though I were present in all my senses in a way that I hadnt felt for years. It was like falling in love or wearing glasses for the first time.

She now has a close, easy relationship with her son, but still worries about the impact on him. I think hes a very resilient child. From the beginning when I was in such a bad way, I just followed him and his needs. Ididnt try to put him in a routine. We had a period of separation at one point. But theres a lot of love and trust between us.

She says cautiously that anyone who is depressed should also get help for whoever is looking after them: Mike didnt talk for years about whathe was going through. Because hewas so worried about me. But if youare the caretaker for someone witha psychiatric illness, looking after yourself is not selfish.

Her advice to her earlier self would be to be more realistic about the caesarean. I wish I had known more about the effect it has on your body. The whole too posh to push thing makes it seem like its supposed to be awalk in the park compared with avaginal birth. I didnt really realise that its a major abdominal surgery thattakes six weeks to recover from. Ithurt a lot. It was scary.

Most of all, though, she says she wishes she had been kinder to herself. Although when you are in the grip of a psychological crisis, the idea of having a self is nebulous. And the idea of kindness to that self even more so. I look back at those months now and its all just a fog. I wish I had known how to simultaneously be experiencing a psychological crisis and be an advocate for myself. But that is almost impossible. I think mental illness is such a bear trap because in any other crisis you can articulate what is going on. But I couldnt. She sighs, realising the impossibility of what she is wishing for. Then she jokes: Maybe a series of flashcards would have helped?

She hopes her book about this experience will help others feel able to say Im sick when things become too difficult to manage. Her story, she says, is partly one about severe postnatal depression but its also about the complicated business of starting out in family life while feeling overwhelmed something which happens to everyone who has a baby.

Theres nothing straightforward about parenting, she says. Its grief, sorrow, exultation.

Things That Helped by Jessica Friedmann (Scribe, 12.99). To order a copy for 11.04,go tobookshop.theguardian.comorcall the Guardian Bookshop on0330 333 6846. Free UK p&p over 10, online orders only. Phone orders min. p&p of 1.99.

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Is Gwyneth Paltrow’s INSANE Body Thanks To A Goat-Milk-Only Cleanse?! (Because If So We Need To Buy A Goat!)

Regardless of her weird habits, there’s no doubt the actress looks AMAZEBALLS.

The 41-year-old is also currently in the business of producing her own supplements in a bid to make women feel better. And somehow we’re sure this’ll be just as successful as the rest of her ventures, even the really out-there ones like vaginal steaming.

Read on to find out more about her endeavor (below)!

On creating her own supplement packs: “There are so many options for vitamins out there. Which ones work? How much should you take? Are they going to interact with each other? It’s almost impossible to navigate. We wanted to take the work out of it for [women].”

On wanting to make women feel better with her new supplements: “I think women in modern society don’t feel very well. The number one thing women say is “I’m exhausted and I don’t know why!” I want to get to the bottom of why that is. The supplements were born out of that impulse: I want to feel well, I want my friends to feel well, I want my readers to feel well. I’ve always experimented with supplements. And I believe the combination of toxic load, the modern environment, and nutritional deficiency makes our bodies more vulnerable to breaking down.”

On striking a balance between diet and supplements: “For me, it’s a combination of what I’m eating and what I’m taking. I have a pretty healthy diet, so when I’m eating processed foods and not watching my alcohol intake, I feel it. But at the same time, you want deliciousness, you want a fun lifepleasure! You’re going to have a baguette-and-cheese-and-red-wine frenzy sometimesbut you want it to be a choice you’re awake to: “I know this might not make me feel great, but today I’m choosing it anyway.”

“The idea is to boost a (most of the time) nutrient-dense diet with high-quality supplements. We’re low in so many nutrients. Even if we’re careful about going organic and nontoxic, because we’ve degraded our soil, the nutritional value of the food we do eat, however healthy, is less than it was 100 years ago.”

On some of her crazy ideas, like putting jade eggs in your vagina: “When you’re at the forefront of something that’s new, people can get really reactive: “This is crazy! Why are you doing this?” Then, five years later, everyone’s fine with it. So I have a bit of pattern recognition in hand at this pointwhich is helpful. Also, when someone doesn’t like something you do, or doesn’t share your interest in something, that doesn’t have anything to do with you. One of the best things someone ever said to me was that the only time criticism hurts is if you have a judgment about yourself about that very thing. If someone’s like, “You dick, you have red hair!” and you’ve got brown hair, it doesn’t bother you. It’s a blessing to be liberated from the chains of other people’s perceptions of you. It’s part of wellness, working at that. I’ve gotten to a point where I like myself. I do my best as a person. I also have nothing to hide.”

On working out: “I like feeling good, and I know I feel my best when I exercise. But it depends on the dayI definitely don’t always feel like doing it. I’ve made it a habit, just like brushing your teeth. That’s how you have to look at it. I’ve been a Tracy Anderson fanatic for over a decade, I’m an investor in her company, so yeah, I go every morning. I drop the kids at school, work out, go to work. I’ve been supplementing it a bit with lifting heavier weights lately, to deal with some lower-back-pain issues. You can’t bottle a great workout.”

Check out a second hot shot from her spread in the gallery (above)!

[Image via Women’s Health]

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No, You Don’t Need ‘Vagina Lipstick’

It seems plucked right off the pages of Gwyneth Paltrows diary, but VMagic Feminine Lips Stick is a real and unnecessary product that promises to keep your vulva balanced, moisturized and purified.

Yes, people. Were talking about lipstick for your vagina, as its been dubiously termed.

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VMAGIC Feminine Lips Stick, $17.99 

The productis really more like a chapstick Because your other lips get chapped, too! is an actual tagline and its made with organic avocado oil and honey. It claims to treat things like itch and discomfort,skin dryness, odor causing bacteria and ingrown hairs.

This puts vagina lipstick in the pantheon of insane and unnecessary health products marketed to prey on womens insecurities about their own bodies. Its on par withvaginal facials and insertable jade eggs,both of those weredeemed questionableby medical professionals.And acccording to Dr. Maria Isabel Rodriguez, an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Oregon Health and Science University, you really shouldnt use this, either.

At first glance, the idea of vulvar lipstick sounds like a joke, or another harmless beauty product, Rodriguez told The Huffington Post, but she listed a few very real reasons it may not be harmless at all.

Despite the fact that the balm boasts a natural bill of ingredients, Rodriguez pointed out vulvar skin is very sensitive, and generally does best without any special soaps or shampoos.

If symptoms are so bothersome that women need treatment, they should absolutely discuss this with their gynecologist, she said.Issues like itching or pain or symptoms from vaginal atrophy should be handled by professionals, she added, not vulvar lipstick. It worries her that women may use Lips Stick to treat symptoms, she said.

While symptoms may be caused by yeast or hormonal changes, it is essential they be evaluated to rule out any chronic skin conditions like lichen sclerosus[patches of thin, white skin] or even vulvar cancer, she said.

Both Rodriguez and the VMagic website point out that the balm is for external use only.

The lipstick should never be used internally, Rodriguez said. That could cause a change in pH, vaginal infections and all kinds of misery. It concerns me that products like these perpetuate the idea that there is something inherently wrong with womens reproductive organs that they need a balm, a shampoo or perfume.

Unless youre dealing with an actual medical condition, your genitals are self-sufficient as they are.The vagina is virtually self-cleaning, its supposed to smell, and symptoms like itching, discomfort and unusual odors can be signs of a health issue that needs professional attention. Although the balm can also be used for things like chafing, rash and ingrown hairs, Rodriguez said those can be remedied by using a warm compresses and gentle exfoliation and not picking at your skin.

For now, please keep your love of lipstick on your face, thank-you-very-much.

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Women could go bankrupt giving birth under Trumpcare

BY ALEXANDRA OSSOLA

Under the GOPs proposed new healthcare law, new bundle of joy might just break the bank, according to an article from Kaiser Health News(KHN).

Giving birth has long been an expensive undertaking. Independent of the costs of prenatal care and screening tests, a vaginal delivery costs an average of almost $9,000, while c-sections are more than $11,000, according to data from healthcare information company Castlight and reported by CNBC (KHNs estimates are even higher, at $30,000 and $50,000 respectively).

For a woman with employer-sponsored health insurance, that cost would be divvied up between the insurer and the patient. But before the Affordable Care Act, only about 12 percent of plans would cover maternal care, KHN reports. That all changed under the ACAmaternity and newborn care were one of the 10 essential health benefits required to be covered by any plan sold on the state health exchanges, so women could be certain that they would be covered, even with the most basic high-deductible plans.

The American Health Care Act (AHCA), Republicans proposed law to replace Obamacare, would likely eliminate the provision of maternal care from health insurance plans. This is under the rhetorical guise of giving women more choices in their healthcare.

Women haveto make the decisions that work best for them and their family, said Seema Verma, Trumps choice to head the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services, said in her confirmation hearing. Some women might want maternity coverage, and some women might not want it.

Senators and healthcare experts (including the Congressional Budget Office, which estimated that under the AHCA 24 million Americans would lose health coverage by 2026) have pointed out that in practice, choice means that more women will ultimately have to pay more to have a babywith fewer of the costs covered, women will have to limit their options to the plans they can afford, or no plan at all. And thats not good news for women who might end up pregnant by accident, as their access to birth control or abortion is limited by bare-bones health plans or defunded Planned Parenthood.

Some experts in favor of the ACA are skeptical that the new health plan could cut too much into the maternal health provision, as many states have past similar measures mandating that insurers cover maternal health, KHN reports. And the AHCA, already unpopular in the public, healthcare providers, and on Capitol Hill, could be amended before its passed, if its passed at all. For the sake of would-be mothers who would be having babies in a world of Trumpcare, lets hope the experts are right.

This story originally appeared on Vocativ and has been republished with permission.

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What every man should know about sex after pregnancy

Its no surprise your sex life will look different after your partner gives birth at least temporarily. Between all of the physical, hormonal and emotional changes shes dealing with, to the extreme exhaustion she is now facing, and settling into her new life with your baby, sex may not be as exciting, spontaneous or pleasurable as it once was for either of you.

In fact, after the birth of a baby men admitted to experiencing shifts in their sexual desire related to fatigue, stress and time, a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found.

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Take heed, guys. Your sex life can be great again. But for now, here are some tips that will get you through.

1. Be understanding
Before you even think about having sex again, its important to understand what your partner is going through so you can re-establish intimacy.

Between non-stop feedings, diaper changes and everything else she has to do to care for your newborn, theres a good chance shes exhausted. Most moms dont sleep for more than two or three hours at a time and they often dont have or ask for help.

Todays modern women want to take care of their babies, Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Columbia University Medical Center in New York City, told Fox News. There was a time when women would hand their babies off to someone else.

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Your partner may also still have pain from vaginal tears or an episiotomy, which is a procedure during the second stage of labor to facilitate delivery. If shes breastfeeding, her chest may be tender and leaking, and she might also have cracked, bleeding nipples.

Because breastfeeding causes estrogen levels to be low too, vaginal dryness can make sex uncomfortable, even painful. Prolactin, the hormone thats released during breastfeeding, can also decrease libido and sexual pleasure.

2. Pitch in
Exhaustion will dampen her desire for sex, but studies suggest helping out with diaper changes, housework and meals can do a lot for your sex life, too.

In fact, when men pitched in, couples had sex more often and reported higher sexual satisfaction, a study in the Journal of Family Psychology found.

I think thats something that many women appreciate and can actually find the desire to want to connect more emotionally with their partner, Chris Pegula, author of Diaper Dude: The Ultimate Dads Guide to Surviving the First Two Years, told Fox News.

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Offer to care for the baby for a few hours so she can rest, do your best to pitch in, consider hiring a cleaning service or a meal delivery service, or ask a family member to help out.

3. Reconnect
Sex might be on your mind, but for most women to want sex, they need to feel emotionally connected.

If possible, plan a date night, do something active or catch a movie sans baby to re-establish that emotional connection.

4. Be honest
Although postpartum depression is usually associated with women, research in recent years suggests fathers can experience it too. In fact, a recent study in JAMA Psychiatry found that 4 percent of new dads experience symptoms of depression after the birth of a baby.

Its normal to feel sad and depressed as you adjust to your new way of life, but your feelings likely have less to do with a lack of serotonin and more to do with grieving, Dr. Gary Brown, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, told Fox News.

Of course you love your partner and your baby, but it can be a challenge to realize that you now have to share your partner. Be honest with yourself and your partner, and keep the lines of communication open.

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5. Be patient
After the six-week postpartum check-up, most women get the all-clear for sex. Although some are ready, for others, it could take up to year to feel desire again.

It can be tough to wait, but be patient and give her the time she needs. Find other ways of enjoying each other or providing each other pleasure other than intercourse, Hutcherson said.

6. Make her feel hot again
With all the attention now paid to your baby, many women start to see themselves more as mothers and less as sexual women.

With all of the changes that have happened to her body and the extra baby weight shes carrying, she may not feel attractive anymore or even worry that her vagina isnt as tight or desirable as it once was. They assume that their partners cant possibly see them as attractive anymore because they changed so much physically, Hutcherson said.

To help her feel good about herself and more likely that shell want sex, shower her with kindness and compassion, and make sure she knows you still find her sexy.

7. Go with the flow
Recognize that sex may not come as naturally or be as steamy as it once was. In fact, it can almost be like the first time you ever had sex, especially if shes in pain.  

Its also natural to feel guilty about having sex because you dont want to hurt her or perhaps you feel uncomfortable being intimate with your new baby in the same room.

Continue to communicate, make time for each other and be flexible, and your sex life will be exciting again as it once was.

Julie Revelant is a health journalist and a consultant who provides content marketing and copywriting services for the healthcare industry. She’s also a mom of two. Learn more about Julie at revelantwriting.com.

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Gwyneth Paltrow Wants You To Do ANAL!!!

No ifs, ands, or BUTTS about it!

On Thursday, Gwyneth Paltrow‘s lifestyle website goop released its second annual The Sex Issue where the publication talks about everything from the ethics of porn, to casual flings.

However, its most eyebrow-raising article is about the dos and don’ts of anal sex!

Related: Gwyneth Paltrow Will NEVER Eat This Animal

The brand wrote:

“First it was shocking, then it was having a cultural moment, now it’s practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoireor so a quick scan of any media, from porn to HBO, will tell you… If anal turns you on, you are definitely not alone, but its prevalence doesn’t change the fact that it’s the riskiest sexual behavior in terms of HIV and other STDs.”

According to psychoanalyst Paul Joannides, people are not getting behind the behind as much as you’d think!

“There are some couples who enjoy anal sex a lot, maybe 10% to 15% of all straight couples. But if you ask them how often they have anal vs. vaginal intercourse, they’ll say maybe they have anal one time for every five or ten times they have vaginal intercourse. We occasionally, as in once a year, hear from women who say they have anal as often as vaginal, but that’s unusual. As for gay men, maybe 50% of them have anal sex and 50% don’t. I don’t have exact figures for hetero or homosexual couples, but a lot of gay men would far rather give and receive blowjobs than have anal sex.”

The author clarifies a common misconception about the intercourse seen in porn, and the intercourse that’s realistically happening in your bedroom.

“Understand that the way you see anal sex portrayed in porn is about as real as how they drive cars in the The Fast and the Furious. The anus isn’t designed to have a penis thrust up it; nature did not spec it to handle incoming, as she did with the vagina… They show none of this in porn. Nor do they show communication, feedback, or trust. Couples who do not have excellent sexual communication, who don’t freely give and receive feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t, and who don’t have a high level of trust should not be having anal sex.”

If you’re interested in doing the deed, do as much reading and research as you can before you and your partner get busy!

“Both of you should read all you can about it first. Spend a few weeks helping the receiving partner train her anal sphincters to relax. Make sure you and your partner have great sexual communication, trust, and that you both want to do it, as opposed to one trying to pressure the other, or not wanting to do it but doing it because you are afraid your partner will find someone else who will. Do not do it drunk or stoned, and do not use lube that numbs your anus. If it doesn’t feel good when it’s happening, stop.”

And remember… always practice safe sex!

[Image via WENN.]

Read more: http://perezhilton.com/2017-03-23-gwyneth-paltrow-goop-anal-sex/?from=topstory_perezhilton

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72-year-old Chinese woman fulfills lifelong dream to have gender reassignment surgery

In order to undergo genderreassignment surgery in China, one must take a series of tests, answer more than a thousand questions, and get the approval from direct family members for the life-changing operation. For 72-year-old Xin Yue of Beijing, all of that was worth the effort in order to become the woman she always wanted to be.

Now, two months after a breast implant and vaginal reconstruction surgery, Xins seven-decade dream has finally come to fruition. Xins daughter and wife, Leng Rui, supported Xins decision, with their daughter reportedly joking that now she has two mothers.

“I didn’t think too much . All I wanted was for her to be happy,” Leng, Xin’s wife of 47 years, told the Southern Metropolis Daily.

Its what Xin has wanted since she was a child and her parents, who already had two older boys, dressed her like a girl and braided her hair. Xin said she liked it, but after entering school, she had to cut her hair and dress like a boy, style changes that made her unhappy.

Eventually, Xin met Leng. They got married and had a daughter, because, as Xin explained, her traditional beliefs and family pressure compelled them to start a family.

After retiring in 2000, Xin began surfing online and discovered forums for transgender people. Without Leng knowing, Xin began taking hormones to increase her estrogen levels, but she didnt feel healthy with that choice and eventually told Leng she wanted gender reassignment surgery. In 2015, Xin had her testicles removed, and though her mood improved, she decided on undergoing the entire gender reassignment surgery.

“I have completed my wish to become a woman,” she told local media after the surgery, via China Daily.

It wasnt an easy task.

As the Atlanticpoints out, the Chinese government made new guidelines in 2009 that forced those who want gender reassignment surgery to apply to police to change the gender on their official registration, to undergo therapy, to be older than 20, and to inform their immediate family.

Xin also had to pass a psychological test. But now that the surgery is over, shes looking forward to a bright future.

In the future, my wife and I can use the term ‘sister’ to call each other. We will still live together,” she said. “My skin is still soft and white like a woman in her 20s. I feel I’m only in my 30s and I can live to 100 years old.”

H/T Mashable

Read more: https://www.dailydot.com/irl/72-year-old-chinese-women-gender-reassignment-surgery/