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Peter Dutton’s office tells Canadian-Australian: ‘go back to US and deal with Trump’

Doug Stetner, who has represented Australia in underwater rugby, called Duttons office to voice support for asylum seekers

A Canadian-born Australian citizen who called Peter Duttons Brisbane office to voice opposition to treatment of asylum seekers says an electorate officer told him to go back to the United States then and deal with Trump.

Doug Stetner, an Australian citizen for 21 years, who represented the national mens team at the 2015 underwater rugby world cup in Colombia, said the response from the immigration ministers staffer was both offensive and comical.

Basically, go back to where you come from. I felt like I was talking to Pauline Hansons party. It was very disappointing, Stetner said.

The Brisbane resident, who has been eligible to vote in the last eight federal elections, said he decided to contact his local MP Ross Vasta after reading of revelations of the strategic worsening of conditions for Nauru and Manus Island detainees.

But Vastas office did not pick up, so Stetner decided to contact the immigration ministers electorate office in Strathpine. He said a male staffer fielded the call.

Stetner, 55, a university computer systems administrator, said he was polite but firm. Basically I said I disagreed with the way they were handling things over there [on Nauru and Manus Island] and they should bring all of these people back to Australia until they can determine whats going to go on with them.

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Douglas Stetner (front, left) and his colleagues in the Australian underwater rugby team. Photograph: Douglas Stetner

He said the staffer told him he did not know what it was like in the detention centres as reporters are not telling you whats real.

I said, If you let the reporters in there, we might get whats real, but theyre blocking the media so you just get to a point where you dont trust the government on anything theyre saying, Stetner said.

Stetner told the electorate officer it made him embarrassed or ashamed to be an Australian to see this going on in Australian-run detention centres. And then he came out with, Well, why dont you just go back to the US then and deal with Trump?

I was a bit surprised by that. I said I was an Australian citizen and Canadian, not American. Anyway, they represent us and all I can do is call them and tell them this is what Im thinking.

Guardian Australia twice contacted Duttons electorate office to seek the staffers account of the conversation. Two male staffers who answered calls denied having a conversation with Stetner.

Neither the office, nor Duttons ministerial media spokesman, also contacted by Guardian Australia, provided a response.

Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2017/may/20/peter-duttons-office-tells-canadian-australian-go-back-to-us-and-deal-with-trump

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Popular social media sites ‘harm young people’s mental health’

Poll of 14- to 24-year-olds shows Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and Twitter increased feelings of inadequacy and anxiety

Four of the five most popular forms of social media harm young peoples mental health, with Instagram the most damaging, according to research by two health organisations.

Instagram has the most negative impact on young peoples mental wellbeing, a survey of almost 1,500 14- to 24-year-olds found, and the health groups accused it of deepening young peoples feelings of inadequacy and anxiety.

The survey, published on Friday, concluded that Snapchat, Facebook and Twitter are also harmful. Among the five only YouTube was judged to have a positive impact.

The four platforms have a negative effect because they can exacerbate childrens and young peoples body image worries, and worsen bullying, sleep problems and feelings of anxiety, depression and loneliness, the participants said.

The findings follow growing concern among politicians, health bodies, doctors, charities and parents about young people suffering harm as a result of sexting, cyberbullying and social media reinforcing feelings of self-loathing and even the risk of them committing suicide.

Its interesting to see Instagram and Snapchat ranking as the worst for mental health and wellbeing. Both platforms are very image-focused and it appears that they may be driving feelings of inadequacy and anxiety in young people, said Shirley Cramer, chief executive of the Royal Society for Public Health, which undertook the survey with the Young Health Movement.

She demanded tough measures to make social media less of a wild west when it comes to young peoples mental health and wellbeing. Social media firms should bring in a pop-up image to warn young people that they have been using it a lot, while Instagram and similar platforms should alert users when photographs of people have been digitally manipulated, Cramer said.

The 1,479 young people surveyed were asked to rate the impact of the five forms of social media on 14 different criteria of health and wellbeing, including their effect on sleep, anxiety, depression, loneliness, self-identity, bullying, body image and the fear of missing out.

Instagram emerged with the most negative score. It rated badly for seven of the 14 measures, particularly its impact on sleep, body image and fear of missing out and also for bullying and feelings of anxiety, depression and loneliness. However, young people cited its upsides too, including self-expression, self-identity and emotional support.

YouTube scored very badly for its impact on sleep but positively in nine of the 14 categories, notably awareness and understanding of other peoples health experience, self-expression, loneliness, depression and emotional support.

However, the leader of the UKs psychiatrists said the findings were too simplistic and unfairly blamed social media for the complex reasons why the mental health of so many young people is suffering.

Prof Sir Simon Wessely, president of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, said: I am sure that social media plays a role in unhappiness, but it has as many benefits as it does negatives.. We need to teach children how to cope with all aspects of social media good and bad to prepare them for an increasingly digitised world. There is real danger in blaming the medium for the message.

Young Minds, the charity which Theresa May visited last week on a campaign stop, backed the call for Instagram and other platforms to take further steps to protect young users.

Tom Madders, its director of campaigns and communications, said: Prompting young people about heavy usage and signposting to support they may need, on a platform that they identify with, could help many young people.

However, he also urged caution in how content accessed by young people on social media is perceived. Its also important to recognise that simply protecting young people from particular content types can never be the whole solution. We need to support young people so they understand the risks of how they behave online, and are empowered to make sense of and know how to respond to harmful content that slips through filters.

Parents and mental health experts fear that platforms such as Instagram can make young users feel worried and inadequate by facilitating hostile comments about their appearance or reminding them that they have not been invited to, for example, a party many of their peers are attending.

May, who has made childrens mental health one of her priorities, highlighted social medias damaging effects in her shared society speech in January, saying: We know that the use of social media brings additional concerns and challenges. In 2014, just over one in 10 young people said that they had experienced cyberbullying by phone or over the internet.

In February, Jeremy Hunt, the health secretary, warned social media and technology firms that they could face sanctions, including through legislation, unless they did more to tackle sexting, cyberbullying and the trolling of young users.

Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/may/19/popular-social-media-sites-harm-young-peoples-mental-health

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Postnatal depression I felt disembodied for so long but suddenly I was back in my own body

Jessica Friedmann talks to Viv Groskop about the terrifying years she experienced after the birth of her son

Jessica Friedmann thought she was managing well after the birth of her son. Then suddenly her thoughts took a dark turn. I had to come back into hospital two weeks later for a checkup and I realised that all I wanted to do was get out of the moving car. I was feeling as though I couldnt handle being alive any more and that it would be better for Owen if I wasnt.

Friedmann, 30, has written an extraordinary account of extreme postnatal depression as seen from the eye of the storm. She lives in Canberra, Australia, with her husband, Mike, 34, who is in the Australian air force. Their son, Owen, is four. The period of feeling foggy, as she calls it, dates it back to Owens early weeks. Friedmanns experience is at the sharp end of things. While the NHS suggests that the baby blues usually dont last more than two weeks after giving birth, Friedmann was ill for, she estimates, two and a half to three years.

She says cautiously that now she is fine. She had anticipated that she might feel fragile during her pregnancy. But when I was pregnant, I felt strong and vibrant, she says. I had experienced depression in the past and I was worried that I would feel resentful about sharing my body with another human being. You know, the idea of feeling colonised, of having another person growing inside me But it felt intuitively right and I felt safe.

Similarly she imagined she felt confident during and after the birth, despite some complications. I had to have a caesarean because he was breech I had a haemorrhage. But afterwards I thought I was OK. It turned out my uterus was inflamed and so I was on a course of antibiotics.

As her physical symptoms improved, her mental health deteriorated. A couple of weeks after he was born, I went from feeling euphoric to feeling good to feeling not good to feeling desperate quite quickly. Antidepressants helped, but did not fix everything. That got me up to half-speed. I thought that was as good as it was going to get. I felt so slow and tired.

Jessica was part of pilot programme in Australia where mothers can be monitored by a psychiatrist after birth. This helped to sort out her medication. Because she had had depression before, she was also seeing a therapist. But despite all this, she still felt at a loss as a new mother: You can read as much as you want, but you dont know what having a child is going to feel like. I didnt know it was ordinary to be in that much pain or to be so tired that I just couldnt function.

But while these things are normal and usually fairly transient for new parents, she realised that her symptoms were more serious. For me the key tell for depression is that I stop sleeping. Its a kind of interrupted sleep. In the early days, instead of getting sleep between Owens feeds, I would stay up all night and be awake. At the time I thought it made sense. That kind of sleeplessness is common if youre experiencing depression. Its a sleeplessness that is like agitation.

It got worse as she found herself heading into the world of what therapists call postpartum mood disorder. I started having intrusive thoughts. Although at the time I didnt have the language to express that. Its compulsive thinking about violence towards yourself or towards your child. You are thinking things that you dont want to think. But the majority of new parents dont have those thoughts. Or at least Ihope they dont.

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Jessica Friedmann. Photograph: Heather Lighton/Scribe

Her mother took over the care of her son for a while. At one time Friedmann had the urge to walk out of the window. Recovery was slow: Depression is very isolating, so I felt so grateful that I had so many people around me who Icould ask for help.

Friedmann realised she was getting better when she felt more in control of her mind. It was almost like a light came on. I had felt disembodied for so long and suddenly it was like I was back in my own body. I felt as though I were present in all my senses in a way that I hadnt felt for years. It was like falling in love or wearing glasses for the first time.

She now has a close, easy relationship with her son, but still worries about the impact on him. I think hes a very resilient child. From the beginning when I was in such a bad way, I just followed him and his needs. Ididnt try to put him in a routine. We had a period of separation at one point. But theres a lot of love and trust between us.

She says cautiously that anyone who is depressed should also get help for whoever is looking after them: Mike didnt talk for years about whathe was going through. Because hewas so worried about me. But if youare the caretaker for someone witha psychiatric illness, looking after yourself is not selfish.

Her advice to her earlier self would be to be more realistic about the caesarean. I wish I had known more about the effect it has on your body. The whole too posh to push thing makes it seem like its supposed to be awalk in the park compared with avaginal birth. I didnt really realise that its a major abdominal surgery thattakes six weeks to recover from. Ithurt a lot. It was scary.

Most of all, though, she says she wishes she had been kinder to herself. Although when you are in the grip of a psychological crisis, the idea of having a self is nebulous. And the idea of kindness to that self even more so. I look back at those months now and its all just a fog. I wish I had known how to simultaneously be experiencing a psychological crisis and be an advocate for myself. But that is almost impossible. I think mental illness is such a bear trap because in any other crisis you can articulate what is going on. But I couldnt. She sighs, realising the impossibility of what she is wishing for. Then she jokes: Maybe a series of flashcards would have helped?

She hopes her book about this experience will help others feel able to say Im sick when things become too difficult to manage. Her story, she says, is partly one about severe postnatal depression but its also about the complicated business of starting out in family life while feeling overwhelmed something which happens to everyone who has a baby.

Theres nothing straightforward about parenting, she says. Its grief, sorrow, exultation.

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Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/may/13/postnatal-depression-i-felt-disembodied-for-so-long-but-suddenly-i-was-back-in-my-own-body

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Teenager dropped by football club loses post-traumatic stress claim

Sen Cookes father says his sons dream of playing in the UK was harmed when he was denied the opportunity to play in front of talent scouts

An Irish teenager has lost a case taken against his former football club, where he claimed he suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder after he was dropped from the team as a 13-year-old.

Sen Cooke, 18, sued Carrigaline United over alleged ill treatment by coaches at the club. Cooke told Judge Sen ODonnabhain at Cork circuit court that he was a good player who hoped to play professionally in Britain, but was not given the chance to play in front of talent scouts after he was allegedly dropped.

His father, Declan Cooke, brought a vote of no confidence against the clubs coaches in the 2012-2013 season, the Irish Independent reports. He lost by a vote of 9 to 2.

Tim Mawe, who succeeded Declan Cooke as manager of the club in 2011, said everything possible was done to accommodate Sen.

Mawe said Sen played regularly during the successful 2011-2012 season, but he was told by other parents that there was non-stop complaining about the clubs management from his father.

The court heard Mawe was very hurt when Cooke brought the vote of no confidence against him, but rejected suggestions from barrister Matthew Maguire that he took any bad feelings out on Sen. We were volunteers. We were doing a great job. It was hurtful. There was no appreciation. He was the same as any player. We picked on merit.

Mawe said Sen was injured in the summer of 2012, missed a lot of pre-season training as a result and had to come off the pitch one time because he was injured.

Sen Cooke told the court that before a game in 2012 Mawe pulled him aside and said that he was not good enough to play. Mawe denied this, saying Sen Cookes mother arrived at the match and once she realised her son was not playing there was a huge commotion.

Maguire told the court that Cooke was not allowed to play during a match which was attended by a talent scout from the English club Aston Villa.

The judge said it was an emotional and difficult case and that Declan Cooke was undoubtedly a caring parent but was not over-blessed with insight.

In dismissing the case ODonnabhain said Mawe appeared to be conscientious and truthful.

In a statement published on Twitter, Sen Cooke said he had no regrets in taking the case. We wanted justice to be served, he wrote.

Cooke added that he had to leave the club I played for and loved since the age of six as a result of being dropped from the team.

Im very proud of my parents for taking the stand for me and sticking up for what was the right thing to do … We feel justice has been served as this case has now been exposed and we can move on from these traumatic years and leave this case behind us.

Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/apr/30/teenager-dropped-by-football-club-loses-post-traumatic-stress-claim